Mary Macaulay Cabot :: bush prisby

Your gentle face and patient smile with sadness we recall.
You had a kindly word for each and died beloved by all.

The voice is mute and
stilled the heart that loved us
well and true,
ah, bitter was the trial to part from one so good as you.

You are not forgotten,
nor will you ever be
as long as life and memory last, we will remember thee.

We miss you now,
our hearts are sore,
as time goes by we miss you more.
Your loving smile, your gentle face
no one can fill your vacant place.

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Mary Macaulay Cabot
November 13, 1926 - January 4, 2010

She is clothed with strength and dignity,
and she laughs at the days to come.

She opens her mouth in wisdom,
and on her tongue is kindly counsel.

She watches the conduct of her household,
and eats not her food in idleness.

Her children rise up and praise her;
her husband, too, extols her:

"Many are the women of proven worth,
but you have excelled them all."

Charm is deceptive and beauty fleeting;
the woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.

Give her a reward of her labors,
and let her works praise her at the city gates.

-Proverbs 31

Born in Swissvale, PA, Mary worked at the Charles Edward Photography Studio and married the late Eugene Anthony Cabot in 1951. Much loved by her children, Kathy (Joe) Uram of Harrisburg, PA, Michael (Barb Arabia), Martin (Deb Ciranni), Nancy (Bush) Prisby, Jim (Kathy), and David, all of Pittsburgh, PA, grandchildren Devon, Zachary, Meaghan, and Sam, and in-laws, nieces, nephews, her cousin, and friends. Retired employee and volunteer at Montefiore Hospital in Oakland, PA. Longtime member of St. Maurice Parish in Forest Hills where she served as a Eucharistic Minister, carrying Communion to homebound parishioners in the church community as well as to the sick at UPMC Montefiore.

The loving, kind-hearted compassion Mary brought to these visits was returned in kind by those who received it. Nominated in 1999 by then-pastor, Fr. Robert Franco, she received the "Manifesting the Kingdom" award from Bishop Donald W. Wuerl. Her warm, caring personality and great wit earned her the love and respect of family, friends, and colleagues. Mary spent her final years living with dementia. All her good came back to her through the prayers and support of family and friends, and the comprehensive care she received from a network of wonderful, dedicated people who, like Mary, carry out God's work through serving others. The Cabot family extends heartfelt thanks to all.

I can't tell you how much happiness you have given us in your little short life... I still get tears in my eyes when I look at you, see you smile, or when you "talk" to us.
It’s a feeling no one can describe.
~*~
I hope you have a good life, Sam - a happy one and a fulfilling one. I hope you will feel the pride of being independent, the satisfaction of learning new things - from your first step through all your "firsts."
~*~
I especially hope that when you make important decisions,
you will try to imagine what you will think of those decisions five years down the road.

If you make a decision that's not quite right,
admit it and forgive yourself - we've all made some of those.

If you make one that is silly -
laugh about it - we've all made those too.

If you make a decision that is right and feels good,
be proud of yourself - you will have earned it.
~*~
If it is your life's plan to have children of your own, then I hope you will see your child's or children’s children and know what I am feeling now.
~*~

excerpts from a letter written by Nana
to her infant grandson, Sam - February 24, 1998

January 8, 2010
Funeral Mass
concelebrated by Father John Skirtich and Father Peter Horton
Music Liturgy led by Dr. Brent Alexander

Processional - "Be Not Afraid"

First Reading - Marygrace Reder ~ Proverbs 31:25-31

She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs at the days to come. She opens her mouth in wisdom, and on her tongue is kindly counsel. She watches the conduct of her household, and eats not her food in idleness. Her children rise up and praise her; her husband, too, extols her:

"Many are the women of proven worth, but you have excelled them all." Charm is deceptive, and beauty fleeting; the woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. Give her a reward of her labors, and let her works praise her at the city gates.

Second Reading - Marygrace Reder ~ 1Corinthians 13:4-13

Love is patient, love is kind. It is not jealous, love is not pompous, it is not inflated, it is not rude, it does not seek its own interests, it is not quick-tempered, it does not brood over injury, it does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Love never fails. If there are prophecies, they will be brought to nothing; if tongues, they will cease; if knowledge, it will be brought to nothing. For we know partially and we prophesy partially, but when the perfect comes, the partial will pass away.

When I was a child, I used to talk as a child, think as a child, reason as a child; when I became a man, I put aside childish things. At present we see indistinctly, as in a mirror, but then face to face. At present I know partially; then I shall know fully, as I am fully known.

So faith, hope, love remain, these three; but the greatest of these is love.

Gospel - Father John ~ Mark 10:13-16

People were bringing little children to him, for him to touch them. The disciples scolded them, but when Jesus saw this he was indignant and said to them, "Let the little children come to me; do not stop them; for it is to such as these that the kingdom of God belongs. In truth I tell you, anyone who does not welcome the kingdom of God like a little child will never enter it". And he took them up in his arms, laid his hands on them, and blessed them.

Intercessions - Marygrace Reder
Prayer of the Faithful
Response: " Lord, Hear Our Prayer"

In Baptism, Mary received the light of Christ, and dedicated her life to reflecting His light in this world. Scatter the darkness now and lead her back to her place with You.

For families of those afflicted with dementia, that they find the grace and wisdom to help their loved one LIVE with the disease, rather than simply preparing them to die with it.

For caregivers, who show compassion and respect as they assist those with failing bodies and failing minds, that their works of mercy are returned to them in full, according to Your plan.

For doctors and scientists, that they use the gifts you've bestowed on them to discover new ways to detect and heal dementia and other diseases which destroy vitality and steal precious memories.

For Mary's family and friends, and most especially for her children, that they may be consoled in their grief by the Lord, who wept at the death of His friend Lazarus. May they find comfort in the knowledge that she remains with them always, until they join her in their own time.

Those who trusted in the Lord now sleep in the Lord. Give refreshment, rest, and peace to all whose faith is known to you alone.

For all of us assembled here to worship in faith, that we may be gathered together again in God's kingdom.

Offertory Hymn - "On Eagles Wings"

Presentation of the Gifts - Sam, Kathy and Jim Cabot, Kathy Uram and Mike Cabot

Communion Hymn - "Gentle Woman"

Reflection - "Ave Maria"

Commendation - "I Know That My Redeemer Lives"

Recessional - "Here I Am Lord"

...i love you, honey